Saturday, May 22, 2010

My son keeps getting in trouble at school for talking?

My son is basically an A student, every now %26amp; then a B or C sneaks in, but he always manages to pull the grade up. He gets up @ 5:00am and rides the bus for an 11/2hr to school. He is also part of after school sports. So on the days he has practice he is busy from 5am until 9pm. This is really the only constant issue he has with his teachers. However they are fed up and he needs to stop before they turn against him. Any suggestions on what to do?

My son keeps getting in trouble at school for talking?
You just need to talk to your son about it ask him why he's talking so much in class and explain to him if it isn't important than save whatever he has to say until class is over. He can talk to his friends between classes and not during class and that he's their to get an education, not to socialize.
Reply:See a doc or talk to him or u will not get in.... control
Reply:Is your son really wanting to do everything that is on his schedule? Does he get 8 hours of sleep per night? 5-9 is a L-O-N-G day. As for the talking, he may be so tired, he talks to try and keep himself going. Or, he may feel like it's the only time he has to be around his friends to talk. I would seriously look at his schedule, and ask him if he really wants to keep doing this stuff. How does he have time to study? Eat properly, and get the sleep he needs every night?
Reply:I would first of all commend him quite thoroughly for all the things he does right. then I would sit down and think long and hard about his schedule, his physical and emotional needs, and your long term goals for this child. remember, he's still a CHILD.





Then you can discuss this with your son; again remind him of all the things he does right, and mention the complaint of his teachers, and ask him what he could do to fix it. Let him come up with a solution, then discuss how his idea might work, and suggest he try it out and let you know. this puts you on his side and not between him and his teachers, and puts the responsibility for change on him, and since the solution is his idea, he is more apt to support it.





Now please allow me to vent:


Would YOU work a 16 hour day ???? why on EARTH do we DO this to our children?





when does he have enought time to sleep? let alone be with his family and just be a kid???





sympathetically, actually, and respectfully-parenting is the hardest and most important job on earth, and you are obviously doing many things right!


cryllie
Reply:Some kids have a "motor mouth"...as long as he's not in fights, doing drugs / alcohol / smoking, stealing cars, etc...I would say he will outgrow the problem. If talking a lot is the worst thing the kid does...you are truly blessed
Reply:He sounds like a pretty responsible kid that knows right from wrong. Have a meeting with him and the teachers, let him have some input about his punishment for interrupting the class. He defiantly needs to sit in the front off the class where the teacher can see him. There needs to punishment at school and at home. Most importantly you need to follow through on it. If its detention at school, then at home its an early bed time on the weekend or not being able to go to the dance or use the phone or his cell phone. Let him know that school is important an disruptions will not be tolerated. good luck
Reply:ur sons is bored
Reply:If he's little, spank him. If he is older cut out some of his school sports. This is school, not entertainment.
Reply:Tell him that if he doesn't stop talking, then your gonna go to school with him to keep him from talking in class and he'll probably get scared of being embarrassed with you going to school with him and just by you mention it to him that you will he'll probably not do it again, works everytime when my wife threatened to do it with our kids!
Reply:Tell him to shut the he*l up
Reply:You didn’t say how old your child is (and that's a really important piece of information!), but I’m going to assume he’s in elementary school, and I’m also going to assume it’s not a problem of him sitting next to his best friend and they’re chatting during class, because if so, surely the teacher would tried moving them apart.





I had the same problem with my youngest talking during class, and he was doing it because he was bored out his mind. The work was way too simple for him. The teachers actually knew that was problem, but our school system wouldn’t allow them to test him for more advanced classes until he was in third grade. Once they did test him and put him in more challenging classes, the talking problem stopped. Now, that’s certainly not the case in every situation, so maybe that’s not the issue with your child.





He needs to have consequences. Come up with a punishment (something that will actually be a punishment, not sending him to his room where he was a toys, games, etc to keep him occupied) and then enforce it. BUT remember that younger children sometimes have to be reminded of the rules. He will slip from time to time, so expect it and allow for it. Don’t punish him for every single incident. Punish him for multiple incidents during a specific period--for example, if he gets in trouble more than twice during one week, and after a while that can be reduced to more than once during a week. And reward him if he goes an entire week without getting in trouble. Just a suggestion.





By the way, I agree with the others who’ve said that he’s too busy.
Reply:Your son's school activity sounds busy to me. As for his excessive talking, I'm not sure if you have thought of it, but who is he talking to? His classmates or teachers? He needs to be talking to someone to get this problem started right? Anyways, I feel that it is good that your son is talkative as he is a growing boy and needs to have communication with people around him. He seems to be a nice boy anyways. So maybe you could find out more information from the teachers as I find this pretty vague.


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