Emotional Problems?

I'm really ****** up. I was normal, now i'm not. I can't seem to talk straght or walk straght. People make fun of me as I walk down the halls. Whenever people laugh, I feel like their laughing at me. I have friends, but none are "good" friends or "best" friends. I started highschool this year, my grades have gone from high B's to low C's. I was really happy for about two weeks, because I managed to trick a girl into liking me. It took her two weeks to realize what a loser I am. She dumped me fast, and hard. Recently I have thought about cutting myself, but i'm still wondering if that is the right path to take. Suicide is alot quicker. Right now I'm holding back tears. Sorry to bother you, I just needed someone to tell. If your going to post please be nice.

Emotional Problems?
You are a teenager, and its normal to feel like you are the weird one. You just have to relax, not everyone is out to get you. If you feel like you have friends but none of them are good friends, why is that? Have they done something that would make you feel as though they are no loyal or that you cannot trust them. Maybe you are just being overly analytical and you just need to sit down and really think about what you are saying.
Reply:Have you thought about getting some counseling? What makes you feel that you are such a "loser"? I want you to know that there is help out there. I am in graduate school for Counseling and your symptoms seem to be consistent with something called a dysthymic disorder. Please seek help before you cut or try to commit suicide. Your life is so much greater than you currently think it is. Think of all the good things you have accomplished in life...Your grades were high B's....also...watch the DVD called "The Secret"...when you think positive...positive will come to you....





You're in my prayers....
Reply:I can only assume that what you are going through is puberty related and it will get easier/better with time. I know things can be tough and it feels as if its the world against you, stop and remember that your never alone and if you are having suicidal ideation or tendencies you need to tell someone right away, that is never the answer. Your not a loser, I went through a very similar time in my life and finally learned to live in my own skin and make my world the place that I would want to be and those that agreed I became friends with, you don't have to fit in to be a part of the world, you just have to be you. Ask for help from someone you trust and start working on your grades and find a place to volunteer. Never give up, you will get through this, just keep believing.
Reply:Look everywhere for help, don't concentrate solely on the problem.


Do things for other people- you get what you give.


i still need to grasp that one :)
Reply:=[[ this is soo sad. I really really don't want you to do that to yoruself.. if it helps, you can e-mail me and I'll try to help you. =/








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Reply:My dear...You are depressed. You need to get to a doctor next week for a evaluation. Your family would never get over you taking your life...There is hope....
Reply:Go talk to your folks NOW! It they aren't able to get you to a counselor then go to the school nurse or whatever person you have there. Be honest, it will help!!!





You are suffering needlessly and need help now. You didn't "trick" anyone into liking you, she did like you, but she also realized you were depressed and she didn't know how to help, so she did what was best for her and stepped back. After you are better if you still like her, try again. You might be surprised to find she wasn't right for you anyway. Oh and for the record: You are not a looser!!! You are however, depressed. It happens to lots of teens and young adults and sometimes it hits hard and fast. Go get help.





Hang tough just a bit longer! You CAN get past this and you are not alone!! Many kids have this same problem, it's a mixture of hormones that have gone awry. It actually is temporary but you don't have to suffer while your body and brain get back in sync. So go for help. Today if necessary. My daughter in law once walked into an emergency room (age 17) and told them she was in really serious trouble emotionally. She refers to it as her "happy holiday". She spent 3 days in the hospital and 3 months on treatment while her system healed. She swears it saved her life.





Good luck!!!
Reply:hey, man, keep yourself busy. When you get bored and start to think about all the things that bother you, you feel worse. Play a video game, make something with your hands (braid string, if nothing else), music, play around on answers, make a myspace page, do sit-ups, something. Life gets better, then it gets worse, then better. Pills at your age are hard, since half the time they make you worse, and fast. But if you find the right one, everything evens out. There are people who love you, and you have a purpose for being here. You just don't know what it is right now.
Reply:i'm sorry to hear about that. it sucks to feel like you're alone in the world. like everyone is laughing at you all the time. i would say to ignore them. it works for me most of the time, but i am not certain if it would work for you. please don't start cutting. it will just bring even more pain. don't try suicide either. you have your whole life ahead of you. things may get better in time. if you want to feel better, look up something crazy on yahoo answers. you will be in stitiches. one time i laughed at something on here for about 30 minutes straight =D hope this helped.
Reply:Merry Christmas and I am sorry and understand what you are feeling. Who says you are a loser? If it is you, maybe you need to take another look at who you are and who you want to be and learn to accept and love yourself the way you are, even if no one else does. High School is a sucky time in life and will pass anyway. If it is others who think you are a loser and have actually said so out loud, then who cares what they think, right....they are not you, and they don't know the real you or they would see the wonderful person you are inside. You came here and admitted your feelings of failure, you are stronger %26amp; cooler than you thought. I hope things will turn around for you and that the Holiday's will treat you excellent!! God Bless you, and Keep you. Take Care.
Reply:I can imagine what u are going thru, Hey there are plenty of fishes in the sea, u still can make new friends, and u need a lot of inspiration and confidence to overcome this, think outside ur small world. Figure out y people consider u a loser, there must be something people dont accept in you, Try being a new you, try to excel in something like getting good grades, u will have people rushing to ur place to get ur attention and be ur friend only becoz u have knowledge





Remember, we all have friends, but they are our friends only becoz we have something they want, and vice versa. y would someone want to be your friend, how did he or she become ur friend, maybe u had something and the same happens to us too... we become friends we find there is something in the person u like, or wanted a favour, things like that..


having good friends is always better than having ok friends





do a bit of counselling with ur close friends if u have any and ask them whats missing in you. i have asked people's opinions to know whats ws causing all the distance





And by the way a girl looks out in a guy, responsibilty, care , affection, leadership qualities, protection,advises,attractiveness, well spoken, not all the time pervert minded,knowledgeable, courageous,


else they really consider guys losers, so is everyone,


figure out whats that u arent upto!!
Reply:Poor Baby!! Been there too! My best advice wouldbe to go to your gp AND GET SOME HAPPY PILLS! I know you might think that;s a silly answer but it helped me! Good luck and I wish you well xx
Reply:I was too and my life is too. Hell that's life i wouldn't care about having friends they will let you down too . Just be happy to live life one day at a time. Things do get better. Who knows you might miss out on something if you're not here.
Reply:High School is very difficult for most people! Believe me, it gets much better after you are out of high school! Do not cut yourself or do anything that cannot be undone. You already know that is not going to make things better. You are not a loser; look into colleges and universities to attend after you get out of high school. Relationships are very fluid in high school; you cannot expect to marry the first person you date. Believe me, you have a lot to look forward to and this is just a little stepping stone in the whole scheme of your life.
Reply:Hey sweety- I kno life can get the best of u exspecially during the beg. of high school yrs. %26amp; u feel like ur all alone. But trust me ur not. I have 2 son's that felt this way thro out thier lives %26amp; I would of felt absolutely mordified if anything had happened 2 them. Ur story breaks my heart %26amp; I kno that if u were 2 do anything like suicide, ur family would feel the same way I would of felt.


I bleev that if u go talk 2 ur school counselor %26amp; ur family- they will help u. Or u can look in the fon book 4 support groups %26amp; hot lines u can talk 2. U don't have 2 give them ur real name- u can make 1 up, but I would certainly try ur school %26amp; family 1st.


Plz don't do anything rash- k?- so many ppl will miss u %26amp; there is so much u will miss. Suicide is a permant solution 2 a temporary problem- remember that!!!


There r also medication u can take 2 help u get ovr this slump ur feeling, but u need 2 go 2 ur family 4 help 1st or ur counselor, like I said.


B strong, u have so much 2 offer!


Best wishes.
Reply:Only Dan,





You would be surprised at how "not normal" most of us are. Everyone at some time or another goes through that I dont feel good about myself. I am 52 and have been there "SEVERAL" times. However, you are only a loser, if you think you are. Everything starts in the mind.





Only you can make you feel better about your self. Start focusing on the one thing that you do well or that makes you feel good about yourself. Focus on that and only that.





Everyday, tell yourself that you are a wonderful person deserving all the good that the universe has to offer. You may not believe it right now, but if you do this everyday at least ten times a day, I guarantee youwill feel better about yourself. No one else can like you, if you dont like yourself. Please dont cut yourself and do give up on life. If you feel you have to cry, go ahead. Crying is cleansing. I hope you feel better. I will pray for you.
Reply:hey if you can cry then you're not that crazy. get the hell outta school and get meds. not crazy meds...just calm me down meds, they are fun :)
Reply:I don't understand why you were normal and now you are not. But I do want to tell you friend, if there really was a "normal" we would all be totally %@!#@ :) . Cutting yourself would be painful, death, a dead end. You are young. I am 41, life is never easy kido, and sucide is a long term. Ya know what, if it took this girl two weeks to think you were a looser, what about the two weeks she adored you? You do know before anyone else can like you, you must love yourself. Quit beating yourself up. Probably 20 other highschoolers who are reading your post as we speak are thinking --"yeah" well I'd love to get a C. I bust my butt and still get D's and E's. Don't sweat the small stuff and Its all small stuff. Get in front of that mirror and tell yourself you are sooooo awesome, I think youre way cool to bare your soul and ask for help. I hope my opinion counts and you do me a favor and smile, take a deep breath and start a new day tomorrow with a new plan for LIFE!!





Best wishes
Reply:Dan, If walking and talking straight has not been a problem until recently and you have not received any head injuries, I suggest you go see a medical doctor and explain your conditions. Even an injury of years ago can affect you now. Give it a try before you decide to cut, because there is a lot to experience in life for you. Grades don't just drop. It sounds like something (Medical) not Psychological is going on inside which can be diagnosed and fixed. Please talk to your parents or a school counselor and have them help you get examined by a medical doctor. This (most likely) has nothing to do with you being a loser. If you are or have been using any kind of drugs, seek help becasue all drug use, including alcohol use does affect brain function. I hope you get medical answers you need.
Reply:It sounds like you are deeply depressed and paranoid. Kids this age (high school age) can be very mean and start cliques. They want to be the most popular, best looking, coolest, etc...Sometimes, they will try to get people to like them at other's expense.


What I learned in HS about these kinds of people was to ignore them. If they see they have you frazzled, it will persist.


You probably don't want to hear the next thing I'm going to say, but you need to talk to someone who is professionally trained who deals with depression. She may prescribe antidepressants for you. They could work.


When people grow up, they grow up. The teasing will stop.


Please don't do anything rash like what you are thinking. For me, high school years were my hardest, because of certain people. It all got a whole lot better after graduation. It will for you also. Hang in there.


Right now, I would make an appt to see a doctor who can help you.


Good luck to you!
Reply:please please please take it easy!!!.....just relaxx and talk to family your mom dad.....listen to music....if you need help with school talk to your teachers and once your grades start going back up youll feel better....about that chick 4get her eww shes probably the loser ......and those friends that arent good or best friends make them your best friends talk to some1....im telling you jus find one person to trust and have fun with and life wooold be so much better.....suicide is not that right choice..at all...think about yourr futire your possible job wife kids house jus life man is beautiful there are people who are sick fghting to keep there life doesnt that tell you something!?!?....but good luck and i really wish i coould help more...be happpy!!!!!